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9.23.2012

Downtrodden By Others

There have been times in my life where others have said mean and hurtful things to me. Things that I would never want anyone else to experience. Things that have hurt me even to this day that I still cannot forget and leave go of. I have so much trouble letting go of those things and remaining loving towards that person with all my heart. In the end I am kind to that person  and still show them love to their face, but I have to admit to you all that I do not always show that same love and kindness to that person inside me and within my heart. Instead I hold onto those hurtful things they have done to me and hold it against them.
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It is hard when others say something mean to us and make us feel inadequate. It just doesn't seem fair that others can treat us so wrongly and leave us feeling like dirt while they go on their way and don't feel the least bit sorry for what they have done to us. Man, it hurts my heart so much for humble people out there to be treated so wrongly by others who have no feelings and don't care about how it might affect others. People criticize us and make us feel so terrible inside and we often feel so upset and want to show that same "meanness" that they gave us and shove it back in their face. While this may make us feel the best at the time- it will not leave us with gratifying results. We also are instructed by God to show love to those who may not show love to us. When in a situation keep a reminder in your thoughts "what would Jesus say or do in the situation?" "would He shout out in anger, returning the "criticism" back or would He show a kind and gentle love full of mercy, despite the hurt they bestowed on you?" I know- thinking that and doing it is something truly more testing and difficult. But God will reward you for being kind to those who have shown nothing but pain on your life.

P1287074354_largeI also like to think that God will judge them fairly when they reach heaven and they will get their fair share of what they have done. We have no reason to punish them for what they have done to us- we should leave that to God since He is the one who knows what is best and fair.

So, all that to say- if someone is mean to you, who shows you no kindness, leaves you feeling hurt, makes you feel inferior, who puts a deep heartache within you, who persecutes you, who leaves you feeling like you weren't good enough, or whatever the circumstance may be- know that God sees all that you do, He knows your heart and He sees how others are treating you and He will be the fair judge- so we don't have to worry about punishing that person with mean things, harsh words, or an unkind toungue, because He will handle that all when we reach heaven (or before). There is a purpose for everything we go through- so know that whatever you may be experiencing is deepening your faith with God and allowing you have the opportunity to grow closer in Him. Look at the good in the situation and see that all things are good for those who love God! (Romans 8:28)

Have a wonderful Sunday!!!
Hope you feel God's love with you today!!

11 comments:

  1. You are SO right, Britt! With my personality, I want to just snap back at the "mean" person (sometimes just to make THEM see how it feels) - very ungodly. I must always remember to do what is RIGHT, not what I FEEL like doing!

    Worse, holding on to one's anger for a person can develop into a grudge.

    I held an intense grudge against someone who hurt me badly once for over 2 years - then another, much lesser one, for 3 months.

    VERY destructive.

    Intense grudges make you think badly of the person you hold the grudge against every time their name is mentioned - because you have nothing good to say about them.
    The lesser grudges aren't that bad - but either way, grudges REALLY affect your attitude; and not just towards that one person. Grudges steal your joy, happiness, optimism, etc. And studies (I believe) show that bearing a grudge actually hurts your body!

    Thanks for your input today, Britt.

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    1. Thanks Mandie for your kind comment!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and heart!! Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way and experiences it!! So true, grudges really do impact us deeply and it is not surprising (like you mentioned) that it hurts our body! : ) Great comment!! :) thanks for dropping by!

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  2. But we also need to remember that even if it seems like the other person doesn't have feelings and doesn't care how they make others feel, they really do have feelings and something probably happened to them that they are having trouble dealing with too. Everybody has problems in their lives, and by remembering this, it might make it a bit easier to have compassion in them. I do know though how hard it is not to hold a grudge when somebody really hurts you, but wih God's help, we can forgive them! Great post Britt! Your posts always make me think so much about the topic. :)

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    1. Lissie- so very true!! I forgot to mention that!! We often forget that those who are hurting us may be going through hard times and sometimes have a reason for why they are the way they are. Such great thoughts Lissie!!!! Thanks for your comment and for dropping by!

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  3. Great post! It is so true to leave the situation in God's hands and let Him judge them for what they have done, not us!

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  4. Thank you for this wonderful post, Britt.....and thank you for your encouragement. I have been hurt by other's words, and it is so hard to forgive and let go, and to love those who hurt me. But as you said, I need to leave the person's life in God's hands. Thank you for your words!!!

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    1. Thank you for such a wonderful comment Hannah!! Glad this could have encouraged you some!!!!

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  5. This has to be one of the greatest post I have ever read! This was so inspiring to me! I have felt this way many times but like you said, I have to put my trust in the Lord! :)

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    1. Aww...well thanks so much Katherine- glad that God used me to write this post to inspire you!! Thanks for stopping by and for leaving a comment. Thanks for encouraging me!!

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  6. A fantastic and inspiring post, Britt. I agree that God will take care of those who say and do wrong things...in His time and in His perfect way. Thanks for sharing.

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