5.26.2013

Rejected for Being Yourself

I often catch myself wanting to have a close friend who I can do stuff with and tell my thoughts to and just laugh. But then I find myself feeling content with staying home and being on my laptop. I like my alone time and I wish I wasn't constantly faced with people and the world. Face to face interactions are so much more difficult sometimes than through the internet or online.

I have to remind myself when I don't feel loved, appreciated or known in my face-to-face life that I have some awesome and close friendships through the internet. Just because they are through the internet doesn't mean that those aren't real friendships- I feel like the people I know on the internet know me better than anyone else! I can honestly say that. Most people in face-to-face interactions and friendships have not given me much of a chance to express myself to them. I never feel comfortable enough or good enough to show them the real me. I can express myself so much better to those people through the internet than I do to the people I come in contact with everyday. I'm so glad that I have met the wonderful friends through blogging since they have helped me get through hard times and shown me what real friends are!

Today at church I felt quite alone and everyone else had a friend and someone to talk to, but I was left in a corner and ignored (like normal), but I have to keep reminding myself I have the greatest friend.......God! He is the greatest friend I could ever have, and even though He may not be physically seen- He is with me and I don't need anyone else. I don't need to be popular, beautiful, or meet expectations that others expect for me....I just need to be who God made me to be and be an example for Him. Everyone seeks friends and wants to be approved (me included), but if we are a Christian, we already have all we need! We have God as our Father, Savior and also as our Friend. God accepts you and loves you. If others don't accept you- know there is one person who always will. He sees how others treat you and He knows what you are going through. He faced rejection and wasn't very popular either. He can relate to how you are feeling. I'd rather have someone love me for who I am inside than who they think I am or what they want out of me. God always will love you just for who you are inside- no false love. :)

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"Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions"

"When people hurt you over and over, think of them as sandpaper, they scratch and hurt you, but in the end you are all polished, and they are all used up."

Psalm 34:17-18
The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. 

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Thanks for dropping by today and I hope that you have a great week!! : )

11 comments:

  1. I am so sorry that you feel so lonely and don't have many face-to-face friends. I don't either. I just remind myself that I am very special and if no one likes me and wants to be my friend then they are missing out on a whole lot. You are one of the sweetest girls I have ever known. :)

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    1. Aww...thanks Hadassah!! I feel better now :) Sorry that you don't have many face-to-face friends either :( I will be praying that God will bring a very good friend along for you!! Great thoughts Hadassah!!!! aww...you are one of my best friends from blogging-thanks for being my friend and for being there for me!

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    2. Thank you! I will be praying for you too. :) You are one of my best blogging friends too!

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    3. Aww...thanks Hadassah- thanks for praying for me :)

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  2. I feel the same way sometimes... About a month ago my best friend moved away. Only a little way away, but she doesn't go to my church building anymore. I've missed her a lot and struggled with making new friends, but I'll always be able to get on my laptop and have friends here. That's one of the things I like best about blogging.

    xox,
    Meg

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    1. I'm so sorry about your friend moving away- that must have been so very hard for you. Making new friends is very hard. I will be praying for a new friend to come along for you! Yeah, that's something I've enjoyed about blogging- making new friends!!

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  3. It's very true that God is all we need, but I do think God made us to interact and be in communion with other people. You know, I've felt the exact same way before. I've been the girl who sat alone in the corner (and still am occasionally, but mostly by choice.) But what I found is that by sitting around and kind of waiting for friendship to come to me, basically I was just forcing myself to miss out. Putting yourself out there is scary, and hard, and sometimes you can be rejected for being yourself, and that's terrifying. But there are people out there who will love you for being you, and you won't find them if you aren't willing to go through the pain of rejection. Being loved is about being vulnerable. When I made a conscious decision to put myself out there, as myself, and without trying to impress, God blessed me for that.

    Anyway, this quote changed my whole attitude about friendships and interacting with other people, so I'd like to share it with you:

    C.S. Lewis: “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”

    Much love to you, and I'll keep you in my prayers, Britt.

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    1. Wow, what a thoughtful and encouraging comment!! Thank you so much for the uplifting words-they really encouraged me! Thanks for the advice and for your thoughts...I really appreciate it. Glad that I'm not the only one who feels this way. And thanks for the quote too- I love it!!!

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  4. I have never had a friendship over the internet. Sometimes I wish I did. I recently moved across states. New school, new house, new everything. Friends haven't been a huge priority. Most the time I keep to myself. Do you have any advice for trying to meet new people? With summer coming up I have no idea what that will hold.

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    1. Thanks Holly for your comment!! :) wow-sounds like a dramatic change for you...I'm sure that must be hard!! I keep to myself about some things too - it is hard to keep it all in though. hmm...well the most I can say is to try to be yourself...don't try to get approval. Maybe don't wait for someone to ask you to be your friend- but go out of your way and ask them. I am not very social and not outgoing, but sometimes it just takes the first step to get a friendship started! and lastly, pray. Praying always helps!!! :) Pray that God will give you the friends you need :) Hopefully that helped some!! Thanks for dropping by and commenting!!!

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  5. Understand where you are coming from completely here. If you feel for some reason that you aren't like other people, and that somehow you don't feel comfortable in yourself that others seem to, then it can affect you. Yet for all that, I am usually outgoing and sociable, but the dichotomy is that I am a very private solitary person too and a bit of a loner, but that has as much to do with the fact I am a writer as with anything else! I was an 'ugly duckling' as a kid as well, and girls and women were never interested in me; and then I grew up and suddenly they were, a bit! But these kind of things affect you, feelings of rejection, feelings of hurt, not being part of the in-crowd and all that. I have lots of friends online too; sometimes I spend more time on them than actually writing or doing anything else! I am a Christian as well but I have never been to a church either, but I am trying to find one now.

    Your blog is wonderful by the way, and you are a lovely person inside and beautiful on the outside too, a lovely pretty smiley face! I say that dispassionately because I am I guess a lot older than you, but there you go! God has blessed you already, now share that blessing with others. I am following your blog by the way, if you have a care you can look at mine sometime.

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