Remaining Patient in Singleness

When will the time be right? When will it happen? When will I know?

Sometimes it gets tiring looking around and seeing everyone so happy. Everyone seems to be in a relationship, dating, engaged or married. Even though I'm happy for them, it hurts inside. I wish I could have that same happiness too.

Waiting for the right guy is even harder since my expectations are high. I don't expect him to be perfect by any means, but there are things that are important when I date someone. I look around and I don't see many that possess the qualities that I feel a strong Christian man should have, let alone a husband to lead my family. Sometimes I grow weary and think I'll still be single till I grow old. It's hard waiting and not knowing what the future holds.

To be honest, it's so hard entrusting such a large portion of my life to God. It's hard letting go and giving it to God. I've always been a person who disliked uncertainty. I like planning ahead and knowing what I'm doing. Lately God has been teaching me to let go and give it to Him. I can't control everything in my life and often I try to take things into my own hands, when I should be giving it to God.

Right now I have so many uncertainties I'm dealing with. Major things that have been hard to let go of and accept if they aren't answered the way I would like. It's hard when you are wishing so hard for something and praying for it, and you don't know what the outcome will be. Often times I feel like God doesn't care and it feels like He's hurting me with the pain. I have to remind myself that God never inflicts pain upon us without a purpose. It may not be easy, but there is a reason for it.

I know that God will always provide just what I need, and for right now God has provided me with just enough. He has provided some awesome friends and family that have been there to support and strengthen me. It may be hard and painful, but I know God is taking me through it for a reason and there is something valuable from it.

I want this time in my life to be a growing season, not just emotionally, but also spiritually. I want to grow in accepting myself and also grow in my relationship with God. God has brought me to this place in my life right now for a reason and even though I may not know what His purpose is, I know there is a reason for it; something special and purposeful.

Maybe you are single and are feeling overwhelmed with all the relationships and marriages, seeing all your friends and family getting married or engaged. Maybe you feel left out and alone. You feel like nobody accepts you or will ever love you for who you are. You feel like you are always just viewed as a "friend" or "companion" and never seen as attractive or beautiful for who you are.

I have found that when I'm least expecting it love comes along. It is unexpected and not forced. Don't force a relationship, let it take it's course. Seek God and ask Him to take control of your life and lead you where you should go. Pray that He will guide you and strengthen you with where you are right now. You don't have to do anything or try to impress anyone, just be yourself. When the time is right, it will happen. God's timing is perfect and right. I guarantee you that the waiting will be worth it. You'll appreciate it more if you've waited for the right moment.

Remember that God has supplied all you need for this time in your life. He knows what you do and don't need. Don't date someone just to be viewed as "successful" or "accepted" by society. Wait for the right time and person. You don't need someone to complete you or be your other half. You are perfectly created just the way you are.  A spouse is meant to be your companion and partner, not someone who "completes you." Don't let society make you feel insecure or incomplete if you are single. You are special and unique. God loves you just the way you are and doesn't love you any less because you are single. Use this time to draw nearer to God and your family. Use this time wisely because you may not have it long.

Singleness doesn't depreciate your worth. You are valued, loved and accepted by an amazing God who created you just the way you are. Don't let the rejection of others ever let you forget how much you are loved and valued.

Psalm 139:14

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.